The Dudley Bunch: Balance

Feb 2, 2010

Balance

I have been thinking a lot about balance. Not the "walking on a tight rope" kind of balance, but is my life in balance? It seems like everyday is a constant struggle for balance between all sorts of things. The older my kids are, the less "needy" they are in the sense that I don't have to constantly be checking to make sure they aren't splashing in the toilet, or eating bugs, but they are much more demanding in the time devoted to their interests, and just keeping up with "the schedules." Here are some of the things I am TRYING to balance:

1. All the mundane work of a housewife vs. Playtime with the kids or just for me
2. Kid activities (piano, scouts, dance, wrestling, activity days, school, friends) vs. Family time together
3. Time for me to do things I enjoy vs. Couple time or family time
4. Sleep vs. All of the above
5. Teaching my children vs. Reacting to everything spur of the moment

Ugh! I guess my new year's resolution this year will revolve around finding MORE BALANCE...wish me luck

4 comments:

jenniho ♥ said...: balance...yep good word of the year Karust. I might steal it for myself.; February 2, 2010 at 4:00 PM
cindy W said...: yikes, good luck to us all...
I have yet to meet or see anyone who's got it all figured out....; February 2, 2010 at 4:33 PM
The Shosteds said...: Amen, sista!!! I have had the same 'thinking' going on in my head... am i a good enough mom, wife, homemaker, friend, sister, etc. I think our girls nights help keep us in check... love you!; February 3, 2010 at 10:00 AM
Jaime said...: let me know when you find the trick and send it my way!!!!; February 3, 2010 at 11:34 AM

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Our Story...the short version

Tim and I met in 1994, after his mission while I was in University in Lethbridge. After breaking and entering the Prince of Wales hotel that was under construction in the middle of February, we started spending a lot of time together. ( If you need more info about our meeting/breaking and entering...call me). Tim left that summer to go to Kansas City to take some science classes for Chiropractic school. While he was gone, he managed to get another girlfriend. Needless to say, we went our separate ways...and I was a little bitter. I guess he liked me best though, because for the next two years, he called me anytime he was home on semester break. Eventually he wormed his way back into my heart, and the rest is history. We married in October of 1996, and have been blissfully happy ever since. He is truly one of the best men I have ever known, and a great husband and father. That isn't to say he never drives me nuts...I am only human after all.

Family Vacations

There is nothing better than a family vacation. We have made it a huge priority to take vacations as a family. Not all of them are extravagant. In fact, some of our favorite memories are our trips to Alberta, or to the mountains a couple hours away. But one of our family's favorite destinations is Cancun, Mexico. What's not to love...the beach, ocean, food, and company is always outstanding. We went again last fall and had a blast. The kids were all at ages where we hope they will remember it. We had so much fun playing in the sand, and just hanging out together. The kids all got to swim with dolphins, and I was happy to be the photographer...in fact I may have gone overboard with my 500+ pictures. Here are a few of our favorites. Happy Memories.

Sisters

I have been blessed with 2 sisters. I didn't always think that was such a treat, but as I have gotten older and hopefully wiser, I have come to realize that sisters make the best friends. There isn't anything...(and I mean anything), I won't talk about with my sisters. A couple of years ago, we started having our "girls weekends", and let me tell you...that is fun. Undoubtedly someone is always nursing or pregnant, but it is still a blast. I was even lucky enough last year to be part of Kami and Tonya's births. I have always wanted to be on the other side of labor, if you will, and just be there as a support. Kami gave birth to Kiyomi in February, and Tonya to Walker in July, and I was there! They were both so amazing, and it was so cool to be part of it, and I am grateful I was in a position to go. Anyway...I love my sisters! Blood and all the others I have adopted to my heart over the years.

Family

Not only are Tim and I lucky to have our sweet kids, but we are blessed with great parents, siblings, and nieces and nephews. It is funny to see how big both families are getting. There are soon to be 24 grandkids on Tim's side, and soon to be 13 on mine. It is so much fun to get together with them whenever we can, and our kids have such fun when they are with Grandparents or cousins. It is a real blessing to have so many people who love you, love your kids, and are involved in helping them become the great people you want them to be. I don't think there is any way we can overestimate the value of such support. I am especially grateful that family is always there in the tough times, even more than when it is all fun. Just want you all to know how much we love and appreciate you all, even if we are too dumb to say it very often. There you go...a full serving of cheese. But I really do mean it all!

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